Our emotions are shaped by our thoughts, and our thoughts are constantly running in the background of our awareness, reinforcing what we believe about ourselves, whether good or bad.  We will say things within our own minds that we would never say to anyone else, nor would we allow anyone else to say to us.  Gaining an awareness of this inner conversation is the foundation of better relationships, more confidence, goal achievement, and peace of mind. 

Common cognitive distortions

Common cognitive distortions in couples